Wednesday, October 14, 2009

thanks for the reminder beechnut

I'm learning that there are a lot of things that I never thought about until after having a stillborn.  The first one was that a mothers milk still comes in.  Might be TMI for some of you readers, but now you know.  Another reality, all those e-mails you get from beechnut, pampers, huggies, etc, etc.  I must have put my information into some website, probably to check my due date when I first found out I was pregnant.  Now, my information seems to be in all of the baby e-mail databases.  I get frequent reminders of how old Andrew should be and what products I should be buying for him. 

"Your baby is now 11 weeks old"  Thanks for the reminder beechnut!


  1. Kerry, my heart aches for you. I saw the link from AM's facebook page and just had to comment. I lost a daughter in '07 but was only 26 1/2 weeks along when she was stillborn. Your Andrew is just beautiful as is your blogsite. You have done an amazing job in creating such a lovely homage to him. Know that a cyberhug is coming your way, and if you'd ever care to talk, please email me:
    God Bless,

  2. Kerry, that really sucks and it's something that most people don't think about, all the reminders that can be thrown at you. I am glad you are posting.

    Hugs, Lisa Gleeson

  3. Hi Kerry, I remember the e-mails and the milk coming in (again TMI!). The worst for me was getting the letter from the hospital several weeks after Angel died congratulating me and letting me know that they received our registration form for the birth of our baby. I guess registration was never told we'd already delivered. Ouch.
    I think it's great that you are doing this for Andrew and for yourself. Not only are you helping moms new to this journey, but those of us further along in it. It's really beautiful. :)
    Take care you,

  4. Kerry,

    I met Tom, Ann Marie and Sean when they attended their first Angelman Syndrome Conference many years ago (and before the other three kids came along!). We may have actually met once when I babysat for them a few times during the summer of 2005 when I was in DC finishing graduate school (I can't quite remember which of Ann Marie's siblings I met that summer.)

    Ann Marie may have shared with you that we lost our first born son William Andrew at 23 weeks on April 6, 2009. I can completely relate to all your posts, especially this one. One day last month I went to get the mail and in it found a sample can - a big can no less - of baby formula. Then there are baby catalogs and nearly daily fliers related to babies that are constant reminders as well. I have gotten to the point where I really don't look forward to going to the mailbox at the end of the day, espcially if I've had a bad day.

    Thank you for blogging and sharing your experiences. I think about you and your family often. You are all in our prayers.
    Take care,

  5. Hi Kerry, this is MK's friend (I met you the 1st time trick-r-treating w/ the kiddos at the sr shopping center). I just wanted to take some time and tell you how incredibly sorry I am for your loss. I will never forget the day I heard the tragic news about Andrew. I, at the time, was actually talking about my girlfriend, Sarah (she lost her baby boy at the end of June this year), to Dr. Silas and he, at the time, thought I was talking about your loss. I could not believe what I was hearing at that time and will never forget the feeling I felt once I heard. Since that day, I could not stop thinking about you and how painful that must have been for you and your family. I just wanted to reach out to you and let you know how truly sorry I am for your loss and to let you know that you are in my prayers.

    Take care,
    Cathy Beloncik


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